An older adult mentor and a young person talking together during a video call
Trust & Safety

Safety Built In
From the Start.

Safety has been our top priority as we designed Eldera. We promise not to sell your data, we background check each mentor, and we are committed to keep parents in the loop. Every Eldera mentor passes a live human screen, all sessions are recorded, and AI-assisted reviews keep everyone safe. Here is exactly how it works.

A note from our Head of Trust & Safety

Most platforms initiate a safety measure only after something goes wrong. We built Eldera with safety in mind to prevent problems before they start.

Too many tech companies are reactive, with new guardrails that appear only after a crisis. We built Eldera the other way around, with built-in proactive safety processes. From our first sessions, every call is captured on video and kept in our archive. Mentors and young people are matched from different parts of the country to keep conversations on the platform. Every mentor passes a background check. The AI Chaperone came next. It is our proprietary tool that reviews sessions and flags for human review potential violations of our Code of Conduct. We made these choices not in response to a problem, but to prevent one.

As I direct the work on these and other safety measures, I am guided by the security I want for my own family.

Carl Lavin CL
Carl Lavin
Head of Trust & Safety, Eldera
100%
of mentors background-checked before any match
<3/10k
safety incidents per 10,000 sessions
72%
of pairs are still talking after a year
Every
escalation reviewed by a real person, never automation alone

Real numbers from a platform six years in operation. Stated plainly, never inflated.

Five Layers of Protection.

No single safeguard succeeds on its own. These five work together to provide layers of protection for children, mentors, and the full Eldera community, from the moment a mentor applies to long after a relationship has begun.

1

Every mentor is background-checked

No exceptions, no shortcuts. Each mentor passes a criminal background check, run by our screening partner, before we match that mentor with a child. Eldera pays for the check ourselves. It is part of joining, and never a step anyone can skip.

✓ Paid for by Eldera
2

Every mentor meets a real person first

A background check is a record. A conversation is a judgment. Before a mentor is approved, we require more than just paperwork, we arrange a live orientation with our team. We get to know who you are, walk through our expectations and safety practices, and make a human decision about who belongs in our community. Many applicants do not make it past this stage, and that is the point.

✓ A human screen, not a checkbox
3

Parents stay in the loop

You are introduced to your child's mentor before they ever meet, and you see the mentor's full Eldera profile before anything is confirmed. For children under 13, the account is yours to manage and you are present for the first session. After sessions, you receive a summary of what was discussed, so you stay close to the relationship without standing in the middle of it.

✓ You see the relationship, always
4

Every session is recorded and kept

Sessions take place on the Eldera platform, and each one is recorded on video and kept in our secure archive. Nothing happens off the record or out of view. The recording enables extra layers of safety: it is what the AI Chaperone reviews, what a human can check if a question is raised, and the reason a conversation can never quietly disappear. The recordings protect mentors, too, giving a complete account of what was said if any conduct is ever questioned.

✓ Nothing happens out of view
5

The AI Chaperone watches over every session

Our proprietary AI Chaperone reviews the video and transcript of every session for signs of risk, across more than a dozen safety categories. It runs quietly in the background and never joins or interrupts the conversation. When it flags something, a human member of our team reviews it. The AI never acts alone. More on how it works below.

✓ Human-reviewed, never automated alone

A Quiet Safeguard, Never a Third Voice in the Room.

The AI Chaperone is a safeguard, not a participant. It does not talk to your child, steer the conversation, or come between the child and mentor. It reviews the recording and transcript of each session afterward, looking only for signs that someone might be at risk.

When it notices something that needs a closer look, it does not decide anything on its own. It raises a flag for a human member of our team, who reviews the flag and decides what should happen. The technology finds; a person judges.

That division is deliberate. AI is fast and tireless and good at noticing patterns across thousands of conversations. It is not who we trust to make a decision about a child. That is always a human being.

What it reviews

The video and text transcript of every session, after the conversation has happened. It works from the record, never as a live listener in the room.

What it looks for

Signs of risk across more than a dozen safety categories, with a catch-all for anything that does not fit a named one:

Self-harm or suicide Sexual content Violence Hate or abusive language Harassment or bullying Scams or financial exploitation Moving contact off the platform Sharing private information Illegal activity Misinformation Unqualified medical advice Anything else of concern

What happens on a flag

A human member of the Eldera team reviews it. The AI never takes action on its own, and no concern is ever closed by automation alone.

The Lines That Keep It Open.

Good guardrails are not about locking a relationship down. They are about keeping it open, visible, and always connected to the parent. Here is where the lines sit.

The relationship lives on Eldera

Sessions happen on our platform, where they are recorded and reviewed. That is what keeps the relationship observable and safe, rather than moving into private channels no one can see.

Nothing goes around the parent

The parent is always the center of the relationship. Mentors agree in the Eldera code of conduct to never arrange anything with a child directly, online or in person. That means if families and mentors connect beyond a session, it happens with the parent leading and fully aware.

Matched across different regions

We deliberately match mentors and mentees from different parts of the country. It keeps the relationship rooted in the platform and on screen, where it can be seen and supported.

Parents are full members of the community

Mentors are guided by a code of conduct. Asking a child to keep something from their parent is a violation of that code. Warmth is welcome and secrecy is not.

No solicitation, no private money

A card or a care package between people who have grown close is part of what makes this community special. What is never allowed is a mentor asking a child for money, or any private financial arrangement that goes around the parent.

Verified parental consent for under-13s

For children under 13, we obtain verifiable parental consent before collecting any information, in line with COPPA. The account is parent-managed throughout.

How to Raise a Concern, and What Happens Next.

Prevention is most of safety, but it is not all of it. The most important thing a safety system can tell you is what happens when something does not feel right. Here is ours.

1

You tell us

If anything about a session, a message, or a mentor ever feels off, you reach out to our team. You do not need to be certain, and you do not need proof. A feeling that something is not right is reason enough.

2

A person reviews it

A real member of the Eldera team looks into it. Because every session is recorded, we can review exactly what happened rather than guess. The memory of a participant is not the only account of events; the record is.

3

We act, and we keep you informed

Depending on what we find, we may pause the match, remove a mentor, or escalate to the proper authorities. Where there is any sign of harm to a child, we report it to law enforcement and the appropriate child-safety bodies. We do not handle these quietly or on our own.

4

If it is simply not the right fit, we re-match

Not every concern is a safety issue. Sometimes a mentor and a child just do not click. That is normal, and it is never awkward. Tell us, and we will find a new match. No child is ever stuck in a relationship that is not working for them.

To raise a concern about a mentor, a session, or anything else, contact our team at dana@eldera.ai. We read every message.

We do not claim a perfect record, because no honest safety system can. Our incident rate is under three in ten thousand sessions. It is not zero, and we will never pretend it is. What we can promise is that nothing happens out of view, every concern reaches a person, and we built it this way on purpose, from the beginning.

Safety Is the Foundation.
Everything Else Is Built on It.

If you have read this far, you care about the same things we do. We would be glad to introduce your child to a mentor who has earned their place in this community.

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